Not quite what you expected it is? Yeah, it was hard work I’ll tell you that. I’m pretty proud of that. I only have one more to get there. The second time should be easy, right?
I just sent my daughter off to work and started thinking about it a little. My actual thought was: HOLY SH*T! My daughter is going to be 18 in three months. I know that sounds like a long time, but it actually sneaks up on you. That’s only THREE months. First of all, this makes me feel OLD. Secondly, this may sound upsetting, but the norm is to be working on your second child before your 18th birthday. No, not my baby.
My relationship with my daughter is different from what you normally see, at least I feel like it is. Most people see us together and assume that we are friends rather than mother and daughter. However, we have some order to how we do things: Mom FIRST, a friend later. {As mentioned in a previous post}
Teach, guide, and lead by example. Maybe not always in that order, but those are my key ingredients to mothering. This is why my daughter has bills (only two). I’m sorry, paying your phone bill until you’re 25 is not going to happen. What does that teach them? Dependency. Let’s learn to survive on our own instead.
This does work if you’re consistent and you communicate. Let me say that again, be consistent. Communicate. Sometimes I have to say it more than once because my plate is so heavy right now. I need to make sure that I’m keeping myself on track. No one ever said being a mother was easy. I will say this; sometimes the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Yeah, its cliche I know, but TRUE!
The majority of my friends have younger children and they haven’t reached these milestones yet. Just an FYI, when your children start reaching those ages…you laugh, cry, and drink wine! e.g.The Drivers License…smile because you can send them to the store whilst you cook, cry when your insurance DOUBLES (just when you got it SO low), which leads you to your favorite bottle of wine.
Oh, wait…driving is not a right. It’s a privilege. I know what you’re thinking, we are supposed to pay for the insurance when they start driving right? Au contraire mon amie, you want to drive you must be licensed and insured. This means the driver pays. In a previous post, I talked about tattoos…that’s not the only thing she pays for.
What do you think is going to happen when you are out on your own? The bills are not going to pay for themselves? I’ve been trying to get that to happen for YEARS…still nothing. *insert laugh* Anyway, her bills now are nothing compared to what they will be when she is on her own. The point is to teach her how to be mindful of her money and not to live outside of her means.
Don’t get me wrong…she is SPOILED. Yes, I’m that mom, but my children know the deal. I know that how I do things is working because they make me proud!
For the record, I’m 28. Now, how many times I’ve celebrated my 28th birthday is another story. I know you were sitting there wondering how old I was, with a child of that age.
Me and that kid…we have fun! =]
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